5 Things to Remember Before You Fall Apart

It never fails. I am in the midst of a crisis, no matter how big or small and I find myself at wits end. I am emotional, can’t seem to make a decision, at least a good one. So I stand there crying, wondering where it all went wrong, why I am here again. How did I fall into believing lies again? Why do I feel like I am falling apart?

Recently UpdatedI am weak. I forget my weakness. I call a friend and she reminds me that I haven’t been sleeping, I’ve been in pain and my defenses are down.

She has had to remind me many times. I have forgotten all to easily. Too many times. But she is patient, she sees what I do not. She knows that eventually I will get it. There will come a day when I will be prepared before I am tempted to fall.

That day is today. I do understand better that when I am weak physically I will be open to attacks spiritually.  My enemy knows that when I am tired and in pain I am more vulnerable to his attacks.

Today I came across something written by Charles Stanley which is an excellent reminder. He uses the word H.A.L.T. but I also added an S. When we find ourselves about to lose control or we feel ill equipped to make a decision we need to remember to stop or “HALTS” and evaluate ourselves.

1) HUNGER – Am I hungry? Have I given my body proper nourishment? When can get cranky when we are hungry. And we we are hungry we are less likely to make good decisions or react in a good way.

Am I hungry spiritually? Have I been in the word consistently or am I starving myself of spiritual nourishment.

If I am hungry then I must eat. Eating something healthy is wise. If it’s spiritual hunger I need to run back to the word and read it. I need to drink deeply of His truth.

2) ANGER – Am I angry? Is there something I haven’t dealt with or someone? Anger can distort our judgment. Anger can also cause us to lash out or over react to our current circumstances.

If I am angry then I need to deal with it. I need to talk to someone about it, forgive or do whatever is necessary.

3) LONELY –  Am I lonely? Have I isolated myself? Do I have someone I could reach out to.

If I am lonely then I need to call a friend. I need to reach out and make new friends if I am in a season of not having many.

4) TIRED – Am I tired? Having I been getting less sleep? Sleep is essential for our bodies.  When we are tired we can find it harder to be nice. We can find it harder to think straight or make good choices.

IF I am tired then I need to be intentional about getting more sleep.

5) SICK – Am I sick? To I have a fever or a cold? Am I in pain or just overall feeling sick? When we are sick we often feel miserable and in that mindset we are not thinking clearly. Again, when sick, we often are less likely to be kind or patient with others.

When I am sick I need to take care of my body. I need to be aware that when I am not feeling well I may not act well.

So what can we do?

Most of us find ourselves in one or more of the above. We must remember that when we are tired, sick and hungry that it might not be the best times to try to make a major decision. When we are feeling lonely we must remember that we become more vulnerable to the lies of the enemy.

We must also be honest. Be honest with yourself and those around you. Share with them that you are tired and in a lot of pain and while you aren’t using it as an excuse you want them to understand.

We must pray. Admit to God where you are at. Ask for His help, His strength and His Spirit.

And finally we might want to delay any further decisions or actions until you address some of these things. You can deal with them later when you are better equipped to approach it with prayer, patience, and godly wisdom.

We can choose to not fall apart. We can choose to look at where we are physically, where we are spiritually and then take these things to the cross of Christ where we have unlimited access to His love, grace, strength and help.

Please hear me on this. If you are not in a good place spiritually or physically then it will effect you emotionally. It will effect your coping abilities and your decision making. You will be more likely to “fall apart”. But it does not have to be that way. You can choose differently.

Now that I understand how these things effect me I am better able to choose to rise above my emotions. When I am aware that I hurt and I am tired then I can be on guard and better prepared. I don’t have to fall apart! That my dear friend is freeing.


When We Must Let Go

I hear her heart breaking. I see the emotions that are swirling inside her. It rips her apart to have to let go. She knows that it is what you want, she knows it is time and yet there is the tearing of the heart that she did not expect. She has put so much time and energy into making sure there was growth and maturity, she put so much of herself into raising them up.

Now it’s time to let go. She knew the day would come, but the pain of it brings great sobs before You. She wonders if she has done enough. The time was so short, it just seems too soon to let go!

free_butterflyWhat about the areas that still need growth, still need maturity? Can she really let go and trust that her God will watch over them? She must, for she knows that it is only with her God that they are safe. She know that God has great plans for them. She knows that the future He has planned will bring much glory to her Father’s name.

Knowing truth doesn’t make it hurt any less to let go. The pain is still there. Her heart still grieves as she lets go of that which she has put so much of her heart, soul and life into.

So now she mourns the loss, the letting go. She knows her God will watch over them. She knows that her time has come to an end. She knows that her God will move her and them on to something more, something greater that will far exceed anyone’s expectations.

She completely accepts this as part of Your plan. She knew they wouldn’t be hers forever.

She will continue to follow her God through to the next place of growth. This will not stop her, she will not be overcome by her pain or grief.

Her heart will still mourn. But her comfort comes as she knows that her God sees the pain of her heart and He understands.